Wedding day are fun days. It is a great time for get together, meeting people that you have not seen for a while. There are the great food, wine and music. Speeches at wedding receptions are very important in any wedding ceremony.
Writing a successful wedding speech
from scratch can be a daunting task. Some people have written speeches that are well remembered long after the wedding reception. Others have been very forgettable. Good preparation and practice will ensure your success in your endeavor on the day.
Wedding speeches don’t have to be nerve wrecking experience. You many not have attended toast master or even have experience in public speaking. Maybe the last time you ever written a speech were in high school. It will go a long way to ensure that it’s an experience worth remembering.
When writing your wedding speech, plan the over structure, mix anecdotes or personal stories with facts. This makes it interesting for the audience. Keep it simple. You want to capture the audience attention. Find a topic and build around that. Tell a story. Use index card but don’t read from them. They are good for writing down important points or topic you want to speak about. Keep your sentences short and concise.
Write out your notes in a form that works for you. Some people prefer to write out their whole script; others are happier with bullet points.
These days, with inexpensive video cameras or web cams available, you can easily try out your speech while recording yourself. The recording will help you reveal any little habits that you don’t even notice – they tend to distract an audience, making them concentrate on the habit rather than on the words. Practice and rehearse you speech. It will help decrease anxiety and build your confidence.
The first big leap in public speaking is gathering the confidence to speak. The fear that is in the head is really about you and not the audience. People in general are nice. They want to listen and know what you have to say. It is normal to have anxiety when you start public speaking. In fact even experience speakers can still experience being nervous when they deliver a speech. The better prepared you are the more self confident you will be when you deliver your speech.
The most common problem inexperienced speakers have is that they tend to speak too fast. The audience finds it difficult to follow what they’re saying. To counter this, you should practice speaking deliberately slowly.
Another useful idea
is to imagine that you’re talking to one person instead of the audience. Speak to the audience in the same manner your would as you talk to you trusted friend. Be mindful of your body language. Do not slouch. Look at the audience. Public speaking is about much more than the words you speak. The way you present the words is vitally important. Start with a smile – this is the happiest day of your life, remember? Smiling makes you feel happy, and therefore more confident. Just a glance will do, before moving your gaze to another person, and so on. This gives the impression that you are speaking directly to the person you’re looking at, and you want everyone in the room to feel that you’re addressing them. If you have to look down at your notes, look at a different face when you next glance up.
Don’t forget that you can use your hands to add emphasis to your words. Don’t go overboard, but if you’re talking about the groom, for instance, you could gesture in his direction. This helps to keep the audience’s distraction at bay.
Have a bit of food before speaking. Nerves are not help at all by an empty stomach. You do not want to have your stomach growling when you are speaking. Even if you have no appetite, just take a few deep breaths and try to calm yourself over a few bites of food.
There are a lot of resources available to help on the internet. Public speaking like most things are a set skills. Once you get the hang of it, it will become a natural thing. Practice is important but improvement is something that happens over time.